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ATTENTION LIGHTWORKERS Who Forget to Nurture Themselves!

Sunday, February 19th, 2017


So many of us are blessed with natural and soulful care and concern for others. We spend our days shaping our lives around others. We find love and beauty in selflessness, but without including ourselves in this blessed nurturing, a consistent, full heart remains illusive. Such fullness is felt through service, the love of others, the blessings of others, the joys and sorrows, and the soul plans followed and those not followed. We are helping, loving, accepting and showing our deepest heartfelt understanding by holding space for other’s soul fulfillment. “What a beautiful thing!” You might say. True, it is. Service to others is the ultimate gift to Self. What happens though is an odd feeling of emptiness when we forget ourselves. When the person receiving the caretaking withdraws and detaches to experience their own sense of self, we find ourselves stunned with a gaping hole in our hearts remembering the need to find joy in ourselves, and our own energy. In the moment of disconnection from those we care for, creatures of habit that we are, we are not equipped with the focus needed for ourselves and we lack the necessary routine and rituals that accompany a healthy lifestyle. And you know, some of these people never withdraw. They are the needy type. This may be comforting at first, then exhausting because each one of us have a deep, inner calling to find our true soul center. Our soul center is the place where our spiritual heart feels contentment, peace, love, joy and passion. As we follow our soul plan, we feel the fulfillment in everything we do, even when it gets tough as we are still learning and growing here on Earth. It is necessary to love and care with boundaries that allow both the caretaker and the receiver to each have his or her own space for soul growth.

Here is a simple, but Golden Tip #1:

Imagine a Golden Chalice in the center of your heart. Know this Chalice must remain full at all times and with all kinds of love. Ask yourself if you are “topped off,” fill your Chalice up! Cute huh? Sounds like a fluid check at the service station! If you are not topped off, fill it! You can fill it one day at a time, one hour at a time, weekly, etc…. This depends on your need.

Knock Three Times, Tip #2:

Boundaries are good. Here is a way to hold loving boundaries where you too are included in the love. Ask yourself three times. Do I need to tend to this and be present here? If you get a yes after “knocking three times,” it’s a solid yes. For those of you who may be my age, remember Tony Orlando? “Knock three times on the ceiling…?” If you get a single no (or more) out of three, it’s a no. Let go.

A Wonderful Journaling Tip #3:

Get a journal that is solely for writing one message a day about what you did that day to recognize how wonderful you are. Use your senses. Feel your favorite things spiritually (knowing and seeing included), emotionally (Feel, feel, feel and it is all ok! Give that to yourself.), mentally (You are smart and interesting.), physically (Eat, jump, dance, stretch, take risks by touching, feeling, and experiencing.), egoically (You have talent. Be confident.), and soulfully (How do you serve others and yourself with what you enjoy?). Take notice of what you love in nature, music, people, movies, exercise, words….

Wendy Chaffin
June 2016

Choosing and Chancing Sown the Path of Devotional Love

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

A fabulous choice: love of self and love of others… in balance! Most of us are out of whack when it comes to keeping the balance between love of self and love of others, and service to self and service to others. How do we know whether to compromise or to follow our deepest desires with full force when our desires do not seem to align with those of the people in our lives whom we care so much about?

Here is what the Guardians have said to me on this matter:

“We suggest keeping it simple. We remind you to activate a preference for contentment and peace in your heart soothing your mind and nervous system. Holding balance first requires a commitment. Communicate with your loved ones your desire to share a devotional love. Define this together. Express intentions to bless each other’s journey. Discuss together what is clear in your mind and heart. Compromises will feel healthy, fulfilling and appropriate in the union. Be unafraid to reveal your true essence and love for one another. True devotional love will not harm, but heal, uplift and reflect your true Divinity. Blessed Be”

Wendy Chaffin
May 2016

Emotional Suffering – A Crying Shame

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

Suffering is an option. Pain may be present at times, but it can be transmuted into Light by asking your Divine Self, your Higher Divine Guardians, the Ascended Masters to heal it and release it. Breathe into the Light to feel balance, peace, joy, love, gentleness, connection, tranquility, radiance, wisdom….Recognizing the Light is gathering your awareness into the present moment where all healing magic resides.

Empathy and compassion are generated toward the other or toward yourself by recognizing the suffering or pain. Sometimes it seems needless and other times necessary, but all is for learning and transformation. Pain is unavoidable in life. To understand pain is to appreciate pleasure. Capture one to capture the other.

Be aware of pain before it becomes suffering. Develop the skills to grab a hold of it before it grabs a hold of you.

I have found Reiki Energy healing work assists the receiver of a healing session and the practitioner to sensitize to be aware of the first trappings of pain as it is experienced. Level One Reiki begins this practice of becoming more sensitive and aware of the subtle happenings that manifest in the body whether it is emotional, mental, or physical while learning tools to bring Light frequencies in as protection from suffering. Level Two greatly increases this ability. Level Three/Four Master Teacher delves into the Mastery of release.

Wendy Chaffin
April 2016

Respond With Love

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

I have a beautiful friend who has inspired me to write this article. I have known her for 23 years. Throughout the time that we have been friends, I have learned many simple, yet powerful lessons through her reflection. One of which I’m going to share with you.

Recently we planned to meet for lunch as usual and talk about what’s been going on. I typically speak of my latest challenges, then search my mind and allow spirit to speak through me for enlightened answers while I secretly hope that it will stick. With her I become drawn to the present through her demeanor and her actions. It becomes easy to enjoy food and the atmosphere and just Be-ing there. I settle in, forget searching my mind and spirit, and begin to relax into the moment. Then, it just becomes, “Hey, here’s the reflection of my kind and loving friend who reminds me how kind and loving I am too.” It is always a pleasure to see her.

Driving up to meet her, I spotted the restaurant she was waiting at and parked behind her car. I noticed a new bumper sticker on her car that read, “Respond with Love”. I immediately thought, “Yes, a great one, as great as the one she had many years ago, “Be Kind.” I remember back then thinking how hard that was. It took me years wondering if I really was kind at all. Now she’s got me again, wondering how long my Guru friend’s new bumper statement would twist my mind.

We had a nice lunch then went to the nearest grocery store to pick up a few things. A man nearby jumped into our conversation and started to randomly go from one subject to another. I did my best to follow, but I quickly thought the more attention I give this man the more he kept talking! I felt confused, so I slowly looked away and browsed the shelves as I inched away. My mind wandered to a question about tomato sauce, then my focus was drawn back to the man. My friend was faced toward him listening intently with a sweet half smile on her face and then it happened. He stopped talking. He was complete. My friend gave him just what he needed. She listened. He got the connection and attention he needed and he felt satisfied and complete. I believe she heard what he was saying, made connections herself, stayed present until the man was complete. Her heart remained open and her eyes were on his eyes. My heart was warmed and full by this lovely demonstration of how to Respond with Love!

By maintaining awareness of ourselves spiritually, mentally, emotionally, physically, egoically and soulfully, we can glean so many jewels from each person, situation, circumstance and event. And Responding with Love will add soulful warmth to it all.

Wendy Chaffin
March 2016

Follow Your Joy to Your Spiritual Heart

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

Your Spirit Heart resides deeply within your core essence. It knows the abundance of the Universe. You can find this essence as you remember the feelings of radiant connection you have experienced in your precious, innocent, childhood memories. Do you remember those expanded glowing moments when you felt one with the present moment? Take time to remember. Sit quietly and ask your Higher Self, “When was I aware of my Spiritual Heart and what did it feel like?” Bask in the memories. Fill yourself up. Ask to awaken the magnificence of Love with and around your heart center and share it so brightly out to others bypassing all resistance from your egoic personality. Awaken your vulnerable, Spiritual Heart. FEEL the joy, the warmth, the tenderness and excitement all in one. You are brilliance in physical form!

Wendy Chaffin
February 2016

New Year 2016 – The Hermit

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

2016 vibrates with a “9” energy, the power of completion and the path of the Hermit. Does that mean you have to wear a hooded cloak and hide from everyone all year? Of course not! The Hermit symbolizes shutting off outer distractions to go within to find wholeness by uniting the material world with the spiritual. You may find more time to be introspective during your normal daily routines. Heal, focus, and find and accept your Highest Truth. Break down the old patterns to allow the the light of the new and you will be quite pleased with your process by the end of the year. 2008 began this journey and 2016 will finish it. Shine your light!

Live Your Life With Ease And Grace

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

My Favorite Expression!

I asked my Higher Self to get in contact with the Wise Ones to help me elaborate:

“As you follow your soul’s guidance, if you allow this blessed reality to be present in your consciousness, you will dream and create in a magnitude that is unmistakably yours and unmistakably in sinc with cosmic consciousness. You see, YOU ARE cosmic consciousness and your unique self is an extension of the grand plan for all of humanity. This may seem too large for your comprehension, but it is not. For each small contribution from each individual contributes to the whole of all existence and profoundly affects the All. Paradoxically, this kind of awareness draws close ease and comfort. You will feel home in your collaboration and communion. The contentment that fills your heart fosters grace. A fluidity of motion from your awakening allows you to come in contact with the seen and unseen. Blessed Be, Seekers, for you are of the Kingdom of God.”

Wendy Chaffin
January 2017

Christmas Has Celtic/Pagan Roots

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

Winter Solstice/ Yule, December 21, is when the dark half of the year relinquishes to the light half. It is the time of the greatest darkness and is the shortest day of the year.

Since the BC years, Yule has long been viewed by pagans (people that worship nature) as a time of divine birth. The Goddess gives birth to a son, the God, at Yule. This marks the point of the year when the sun is reborn. Bonfires were lit in the fields. The ceremonial Yule log, traditionally ash wood, was placed in the fireplace decorated in seasonal greenery, doused with cider or ale, and dusted with flour before set ablaze by a piece of last years log, (held onto for just this purpose). The log would burn throughout the night, then smolder for 12 days after before being ceremonially put out. Candles are also lit to welcome the sun’s returning light. The Goddess, slumbering through the winter of Her labor, rests after Her delivery.

Holly and ivy not only decorated the outside, but also the inside of homes, in hopes nature sprites would come and join the celebration. A sprig of holly was kept near the door all year long as a constant invitation for good fortune to visit the residents. Mistletoe was also hung as decoration. Children were escorted from house to house with gifts of clove spiked apples and oranges which were laid in baskets of evergreen boughs and wheat stalks dusted with flour. The apples and oranges represented the sun. The boughs were symbolic of immortality (evergreens were sacred to the Celts because they did not “die” thereby representing the eternal aspect of the Divine).

Many customs created around Yule are identified with Christmas today. If you decorate your home with a Yule evergreen tree, holly or candles, you are following some of these old traditions. The Yule log, (usually made from a piece of wood saved from the previous year) is burned in the fire to symbolize the Newborn Sun/Son, Jesus.

Adapted notes from
The Celtic Connection

Wendy Chaffin
December 2015

A Couple of Hours with Wendy and Emmy on a Hiking Trail

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

There I sat under my favorite oak tree at Mission Trails on a beautiful, warm, and lightly windy fall morning – my initial goal was to get out of the house and exercise, so I did – I worked up a sweat walking all around and finally plunked myself under a great tree to ponder what to write about – I had never taken this long to figure it out – my mind was searching for what seemed much longer than it should be. Then the random acts of spirit began to talk to me – and this is what showed itself to me in my sacred silence, NOISE! – “Emmy!-Emmy!-Emmy!- Come here! Where are you?”

Someone was calling out from a distance – this person seemed pretty perturbed that Emmy would take off and go so far away. And then Emmy showed up in front of me. A sweet dog that looked like a fox. She looked right into my eyes like she was on a mission to meet me. So I took a moment, tuning into her eyes and asked, “What’s the message, Emmy?” –

I heard, “You lie to yourself.”


“Yeah, you know that there’s nothing more wonderful, nothing more sacred, nothing more interesting than the present moment right here right now.” Then Emmy left to go meet her family.

Hmmmm – I thought about it for a moment. For most of my life I have not accepted the truth of my power, the presence within me and all around me, in each present moment. Thinking that I am present when I’m not IS a lie.

Now the wind began to blow through the trees, moving them and making sounds as if to say, – “Shhhhhh … Dummmmmmmy … This powerful presence is here with you always and we are one with you.”

I caught a chill there, disciplined by nature. So I got up to get back in the sun on the trail so that I could see and hear what else spirit was trying to tell me. And then it occurred to me: Nothing is trying to tell me anything. It’s me trying too hard as usual. Thinking that life has to always be hard. I have to over-try to make something happen for myself. All my wants and needs can only manifest through trying. There is a fine line between trying and BEing. When we start to BE, we feel wonderful and we begin to manifest by being present and recognizing abundance in the moment. Once I notice the abundance that’s there in front of me, I have to try to create again. The trap of trying! So, then in front of me on the trail are hundreds of rocks making it really hard to figure out where the trail is. I tripped over a rock and almost fell. It was then that spirit reminded me, “Choose! – and while you’re choosing, pay attention to what’s in front of you.”

So I looked in front of me, to the sides of me, to my backside all around and up! – And what I discovered was that I was in the middle of a panorama that took my breath away and filled me with joy.

As I continued along the path, I came upon a bridge with a sign nearby displaying the words, – “Life and Death.” It was a message about forest fires, how they affect the trees and the animals there, and how nature rebirths itself and sustains itself again – the very bottom of the sign had a quote I had never noticed there before. It said,

“For certain is death for the born and certain is birth for the dead; therefor over the inevitable thou shouldest not grieve.” –Bhagavad-Gita

Wow! I walked that trail many times before yet never saw that small writing at the bottom of the sign. The bridge told me, simply put, “I join the two sides together.” I thought immediately of my mother’s recent passing this year – although terribly confusing and painful to lose her physically, I feel her close-by in spirit in a comforting way. My thoughts moved to the pain of trying – I was ready to end this pattern and allow the death of it. “I’m sure there’s comfort on the other side of that as well,”- I thought.

Further on the path, the words “Presence-BEing-Creating” came to me in that way and in that order. “I can’t create unless I’m present.”

I was taken aback by a funny looking tree all slumped over, partially alive, but seemingly dead. I thought to myself, “Geez, I feel that way often. Why would we be so alive and then act dead at the same time? Why not live out presently what’s being shown to us, absorb every moment with all the love we have and get everything out of our creation rather than shirking it off or doubting what is in front of us?” – I knew in that moment that I’m doing life in fast-forward, hoping for better ahead in the future. But I also realized that in many ways I have a slow way of doing life, too, looking back so often. I’ve acquired a lot of knowledge along the way and I have a lot to share. So I walked on with my shoulders back and my eyes open. No need to slouch like that tree.

These spiritual messages that Mother Nature gave me filled me up 100%. Spirit, my Higher Self, God, Goddess, the Universe, the Cosmos are supporting me 100%! – Everything I need is right here, right now, currently present in the make-up of my life. I am blessed and so are you. Pay attention: You’re being spoken to. –

Thanks, Emmy. You put me on an intuitive course for success.

Wendy Chaffin
November 2015

Loving Self – A Gift of Immense Proportion

Sunday, February 19th, 2017

One day in a conversation with a kind, elderly man I was compelled to relay how important it is to love himself. He asked me, “Why do I need to love myself and why is it necessary?” He was a dedicated and devoted husband and spent his whole life loving others. He also said, ” I am a drop in the pond of life. I am as insignificant as a grain of sand on the beach.”

So I reminded him that he is infinitely small and immensely large as the ever expanding universe with all this happening at the same time.

He may not leave this earth until he recognizes not only love for another, which he has done successfully, but to love himself.

As he learns to love himself, he will reflect back his self-love to others and they will in turn love themselves more easily.

We both agreed that love is the ultimate truth. After all it is heart-warmingly pleasant, peaceful and exists energetically in and around all matter. The matter itself is a facade overlying this beautiful vibration.

Wendy Chaffin
September 2015